Developing a Healthy Relationship with Food

My relationship with food has come a long way since my days of disordered eating. I eat enough to properly nourish my body and maintain a health weight. However, when it comes to fighting against diet culture and that voice inside my head trying to control what I eat and when, I still have work to do.

I found this TEDx talk titled “What is a healthy relationship with food” given by Rhiannon Lambert, who, according to the video description on YouTube, is “a leading Nutritionist, founder of Harley Street clinic Rhitrition and bestselling Author of Re-Nourish: A Simple Way To Eat Well.”

Rhiannon Lambert does wonderful job of describing the hurtles of having a healthy relationship with food, and provides valuable insights into how to reclaim food as a something to be enjoyed rather than controlled.

I encourage you to watch her talk above. Below are the insights from Rhiannon’s talk that hit home for me.

  • The best thing we can do is separate the voice inside our heads that is telling us what we should and should not eat from what we would really like to eat and what we would really enjoy.
    • I have seen first hand the joy pleasurable food can bring. Letting go of guilt and pressure about the food I consume lifts a significant weight off my shoulders.
  • Small changes can have big results when implemented over a long period of time. We may often think that to be healthier we need to make drastic changes to our diets and add the newest nutrition trends that are promoted by the media.
    • I have found that I feel healthier in mind and body by adding just a few more nutritious items to my diet that I actually enjoy and fit into my budget. No fancy, expensive “super foods” needed.
  • When we eat a variety of foods that we enjoy on a regular basis, we are less likely to binge. Restriction leads to cravings.
    • I am still working on this. There is still that voice in my head that tells me not to eat certain food items because they are “bad.” But this is nonsense. As Rhiannon says, food is not intrinsically good or bad. What I need to do is listen to my body and mind and nourish it, and that includes eating my favorite treats on a regular basis, not just on “cheat days,” a concept I do not endorse.
  • Everyone is unique biologically and genetically. What works for you won’t work for anyone else. We all need to find a balance that works for us.
    • This is one of the big reasons I work to stay away from diet fads and take nutrition advice from friends and family with a grain of salt. Only I know what foods make me feel and function at my best.
  • Rhiannon’s four principles to nourish body and mind
    1. Respect your body
    2. Refuel – food is fuel and energy
    3. Re-hydrate
    4. Recover – this goes beyond muscle building and also includes mind, hormones, and sleep

I think that developing a healthy relationship with food will always be a work in progress for me. Even though I try not too, it is still easy for me to get swept up in the advice given in the media and by my peers, which is why I am grateful for the reminders provided in this TEDx Talk. Food is about giving energy and pleasure to our bodies and minds. Eating a variety of foods that we enjoy is one of the best ways we can love our whole selves. Food is a beautiful gift.

Withing you safety, strength, health and a life of joy and ease.


The Tenacious B does not claim to have any expertise on this topic. All writing is for personal reflection and entertainment purposes.

One thought on “Developing a Healthy Relationship with Food

  1. Thank you so much for sharing this post and the video from Rhiannon Lambert. My journey against diet culture is just beginning and I am in such need of direction!!

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